In the very closing stages of CPO365 Phase II, a chief petty officer stared into the eyes of a selectee and asked him very matter-of-factly but with a great deal of passion, the kind of passion that exists not in words but in the eyes and in the heart: “You got something to hide? Well, let me tell you about myself. My mother was a prostitute and my father was a pimp and an alcoholic. My mother was Mexican and my father was black. I was raised by my mother’s family in a Mexican house. I was called n----- and told I would never amount to anything. I was abused from the second grade until the fourth grade. I was raped. Now what do you have to hide?”
What amazing courage for someone to bare his soul to another, but he trusted those around him, including that would-be chief. He is an inspiration not just for his honesty but also because of who he is today and what he overcame. That chief petty officer, a young man by most standards, had endured hardships the rest of us could not comprehend. He not only persevered, he flourished. He did not let the experience of his youth dictate who he would become, and he made liars of those who said he would never achieve anything.
Rarely do we see inside another person’s soul, but this chief’s story is an example of countless other sailors and Marines, officers and enlisted, who exist among us. People young and old who have faced great hardship; many have overcome, some still struggle. And this event offers important lessons.
First, be careful judging others before you truly know them. Everyone is fighting some personal battle; many have faced extremely difficult obstacles in life.
Second, military training should be gut wrenching; it is through challenge and adversity that we find our true selves. Training for new chief petty officers must create opportunities for building trust and newfound personal awareness. A visible transformation takes place in many selectees each September, and it is unfortunate that the small minority who did not experience it, or who had an otherwise poor experience, continue to push for changes that eliminate these moments.
Third, heroes come in all shapes and sizes and are heroic for a variety of reasons. The subject of this article is one of them. He is a hero because he overcame adversity and does not hide those things that molded him into the man he is today.
I’m happy he is leading young men and women and is a role model for junior personnel, especially minorities and victims of abuse.
I’m proud of him because he was victimized, but he is not a victim. He was abused, yet he is gentle. He was belittled, but he is compassionate. He was humiliated, yet he is proud.
He is a chief petty officer.